You can't have everything, where would you put it?

[awest1217]

CTH - You really need to watch what you say to your girls. I understand you don't want to hear about it, but STBXW and D11 talked about it so D11 wanted to share with you, not to hurt you, but to share as all girls do. Also if you don't want STBXW to know about your dating then you will have to not tell your girls either. They are going to talk about it to STBXW because that is how open communication works. If your dating becomes part of their life, then they will talk to STBXW about it because it is part of their lives just like her going to SD was part of their lives because they had to be at the campground instead of their house.

Just really be careful and try to see things from your daughter's point of view and not your own. It is ok to switch the conversation by saying something like "It sounds like mom had a good time. How was the campground?" or something else to change the subject. You need to listen to your girls talk because although it is about STBXW, that person is their mom and a huge part of their lives so you are stuck. Listen then change the subject as soon as possible if it bothers you, but don't negate what they feel is important to them.