How To Tell The Kids

[A_goodman]

Dan.

First off, you have nothing to be sorry over. I agree with the others about this. You have been a good friend to a lot of us. And have really come a loooooong way since this all started. So you blew up. No kidding? Everything you said was dead on the money. I know, it's not proper db procedure, but gee whiz, how much can one man take and still be empathetic and validate everything. Yeah, maybe you should have gone for the walk BEFORE cursing her, but you know what? Whether you did it right, or not, you definitely man-ed up.

This is one of the craziest things I have ever been involved in. If a man treated us the way we’re being treated, I think I can speak for most of us and say it might get that guy a slug in the chops, if not more. Heck, if anyone hurt me like this and threatened my kids future as much as she has, I would be hard pressed not to go ape-$hit all over them. But here we have to try to do this delicate dance and not hurt their wacked out feelings or challenge their goofy perception of reality. Don’t get me wrong, I understand it and why we need to do it. It’s just that sometimes I don’t want to.

You are in the self protection zone now. I’ll bet it felt good to curse her, just don’t do it again. Bluestar has a good point. Whatever you do, don’t give her any ammo to use on you. Make sure that when you walk into court, the judge finds you relaxed and pleasant. You followed all his orders and are ready to negotiate for a fair deal. Let her look like the fool she is. With no proof of anything.

IDK, thanks for the tips. My S9 learned how to swim this wknd so I’m going to make good on a promise to take him on a guided fishing trip. Can’t wait to eat some fish!

I have been reading your threads, but haven’t posted to you yet (I’m not finished reading them yet). All I can say is that I feel for you man. If this site wasn’t overrun with similar stories, I’d say it was unbelievable. For all of us.