The initial attraction to your W was not actually HER. To me it sounds like the real attraction was from your ego. She didn't give you the time of day but once she did you were willing to overlook MOST of who she was because it made your ego feel good.
You said something the other day that sort of shocked me. You said you knew a lady that was 31, good looking and smart and many other complimentary things and you were surprised she was alone and not in a R. Did you ever stop to think maybe she didn't WANT to be in a R? That maybe her ego was not part of her decision making process when it came to a R?
Your marriage might have failed but it doesn't necessarily make YOU a failure. But you really should try and examine why your ego is so bruised over somebody that you never really found that appealing as a PERSON but your ego certainly found her appealing.
