And I'll have to put her on a budget if she comes back. "Here;s your cash for the week. There is no more. And no debit or CC's for you."
That does not endear trust in the marriage and restoring it. Too controlling. Nope.
However, you can work on a family budget as a joint effort and agree to a fixed amount that you will spend without needing consent. For example, my current gal and I have an agreement to spend $200 without prior approval. It is the big items that needs to be communicated prior to purchase.
