So, I should just instruct her what she needs to do next regarding what she has to compile for the mediator?
Have her pull all our joint banking statements; arrange the home appraisal; etc?
#1: Nope. She is a big girl. #2: Nope. You don't want W to pull up joint banking statements as ammunition. You need to review options with your own attorney.
Let W do the home appraisal and you get your own professional home appraisal if she decides to conduct one (she may drag her feet on this). You will definitely get two different versions. BTW, don't lift a finger.
Contact a laywer to get legal opinon about protecting your finances without a separation aggreement and explore your options. The goal is to protect your own finances while slowing down the D train. If I were you, I'd break off the meditator and get my own lawyer for finances.
