Get a lawyer to represent you on the financal arrangements now. You need to pick your own battles carefully. No point in losing your shirt over this. Seems that the W is getting rather loosey-goosey with your money as well and could put a further dent into your finances (not to mention your credit score). Time to protect your finances.
The meditator is not qualified to handle your own finances. I wouldn't go there or even try to contact the meditator. You need a lawyer for this type of thing. Put some controls in place. It serves as a temporary brake on W's happy-go lucky behaviors when it comes to money and heck ...even try to use your money to pay for OM's Biology 101 textbook!!
