Thanks SA. I feel I have a clear direction re the D. I have decided that I will not bring it up but when H mentions it I will just go along with it. A friend of mine says H needs the D to clear the past away and then start again without any commitment. I'm not sure about that but what I am noticing is different to previous times.
During other positive periods I was walking on eggshells cos he was very volatile and anything could have set him off again. It appears different now in that he is able to acknowledge a different perspective and discuss things calmly and rationally. He is much more like H of old but still with some reservations and reluctance to totally engage...a cautiousness.
That being said OW is still present, although doesn't appear to be much commitment to her. Doesn't seem to go there too often and she's rarely at his place. Is he cake eating? Probably, but I am prepared to take a risk as this time as there seems to be some progress. However, this will be for a limited time. Atm I also feel it's ok cos he's giving as much as he's taking (bringing stuff for dinner, driving D etc)
