Well I guess the idea for getting sex toys came from me. I had mentioned to him numerous times in the last 2 months that I wanted to go down to the couples store (not sure what you call those places...see what a pro I am ) to find a certain item I wanted. I guess I indicated to him that I would be interested in those things. I guess I'm just hurt and scared that he selected them alone. but my h when i first met him was into porn videos and mags...over time I phased him out of using them with me (don't like them) but he continued on the sly off and on for years. Not with toys though.
I guess that is where the where came from....me . He said he bought them at the Spencer's in the mall so it wasn't like he went to an XXX store alone which I guess makes it ok?.
Men...can't live with them and we can't string em up!
Well, you can always try them out if your not opposed to it and see what you think. If there is something else you want to get, you might suggest you go together to get it and then tell him what you like. It's all about communication. Rachael
Yeah I got to tell him. That's the problem....we don't talk to each other. maybe after his c session today he'll be more open to talking to me. Prayerfully.
I'm just so afraid to hear him say something awful from him! Like I ain't heard awful already but my heart can't take to much more of it!!!!
Quote: Ok, someone mentioned that I should 'protect' myself sexually because my h purchased 2 sex toys (feathers & nylon handcuffs)...Anyone got any input on this?
Cindy, I got the toys because my fingers got tired, and mister dildo does not go soft. Not to be crude, but the XW could ride the wave for better than 30 mins, no way little poe could deliver that long.
Have fun with the toys, that why they call them toys. Note: Have more lub available.
One of our best fantasizes was a simulated rape, she dress in old clothes and I rip them off. It was a hot night, and lots of slipping and sliding. I need a cold shower.
You nerd! You made me laugh so loud when I read your post!!
You make me sound like some kind of nymph0. Like my h has to buy toys to keep his w satisfied ...ok well maybe that's true. No really...h needs no help..we are both of the same wavelength, ha, ha !
Now I need a cold shower...oops can't I'm at work . Thanks a lot for the good dose of hot n bother!
Cindy, Did you talk to him? I know what you mean about being afraid of hearing something. I think the memory of the bomb lives in our minds still. That's not to say it will happen that way though. I was sure my H was going to give me the boot yet again, but he didn't and things are getting better every day. 3 positives for the day: 1.We had a blast with kids last night shopping and visiting Santa. 2. H said ILY 3 times!!! First!! 3. I got a good shift at work-they're changing everything around and I was afraid I'd have a late shift. Whew!
Hey Cindy. Finally catching up on your thread and all the toy talk.
Quick thoughts - sounds like your H is a man floundering. He doesn't know what to do, he doesn't communicate well, he latches onto things at random looking for the silver bullet that will fix everything.
So, he's in a store, sees these toys, remembers you saying something once upon a time, and buys them. But he's scared you won't like them, or that you'll take it wrong, so he doesn't bring them up. Instead, he lets you discover them to see your reaction.
Translation: maybe he's trying, but not in the way you want. Remember, many men are clueless when it comes to relationships, and your H seems to fit in that category. Heck, that was me four years ago.
Remember, assume the best unless you have reason to assume otherwise.
. I was starting to worried. Though it is too soon to say if what I'm doing now at the advice of the c is working. 
) to find a certain item I wanted. I guess I indicated to him that I would be interested in those things. I guess I'm just hurt and scared that he selected them alone. but my h when i first met him was into porn videos and mags...over time I phased him out of using them with me (don't like them) but he continued on the sly off and on for years. Not with toys though. 
. He said he bought them at the Spencer's in the mall so it wasn't like he went to an XXX store alone which I guess makes it ok?.
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. Thanks a lot for the good dose of hot n bother!