Firewalling means protecting your OWN finances...does not mean that you are initaiting the divorce. Two different, separate things. It is W's job to do the divorce paperwork, not yours.

I am with Puppy regarding the use of humor. Oh yeah...while pressure is coming from all sides for W and OM, she'd like humor and funny on-liners from you in person. It'll make you look like the charmer you are! She will eventually chuckle. All the WASes move at a glacier pace when it comes to their position...they don't even want any hint of "evidence" to show their stupidity in leaving the marriage and family. They all are currently entrenched in their own positions that they're FREE of responsibilities and playing Disneyland. That too will fade.

I am on the curbside watching your W and OM's parade. Why don't you join me and have some cotton candy! grin Hey, why don't I sneak over to OM's school and pay him to go to Hooters with me during orientation week!!! wink