Relocated the family and he dropped the bomb

[Dagny-2]

Hi MM, add me to the club of wives who just moved 1/2 way across the country for H's job and then get a bomb dropped on them. I, too, am planning to have the talk with my H tonight. I know he is moving out, but I need to express my feelings.

My C said to me to tell him if we are going to end our M, to end it with honesty. I think that is a fair statement and I plan to use it. I'm planning to just state my decisions and then let him make his own decisions. I'm not going to give a time-line, I have one in my own head, but based on advice, I'm not sharing that information with him. I'm still working on my wording about OW/boundaries.

At 14 years of M my H moved out, it wasn't until that point where he finally started to address some of his own issues and unhappiness. Unfortunately 7 years later he has decided to re-visit those issues and leave me 12 hours from my friends and back on this board. I think we all have moments of strength and moments of weakness and we need to make our decisions while we are strong and just recongnize when we are basket cases and keep our mouths shut during those periods.

Just my random thoughts as I nervously approach tonight.

Dagny