she removed herself from the family because she decided she did not want to tow the family line anymore.
h said that she should treat mom and dad like that. and her answer was that he didn't live in the same city as them. she was. and she got tired of the mom's quirks. and h felt she should have sucked it up.
she missed our wedding and he comes from a small family. he felt she let him down on his big day. he never forgave her for it. he lent her money in the past and she's never paid him back - hmm .. do you see a trend here? during our marriage, i met my SIL once. and that was it.
h defended his parents. and because of that, she said fine. i'm out. and she has kept her word for five years and counting.
there has been no attempts to reconcile on either sides. money problems are common in their family. it's good i kept my finances separate from them. a few years ago, they wanted me to deposit my earnings in my fil's company account. it's a good thing i didn't. i was smart enough to keep my finances separate from them. i didn't even have a joint acct with my h.
