I did make one big mistake. While she was denying everything, I asked her about an e-mail she sent to her twins group that she is pres. of. She send one out each month and starts it off with a "Greetings from the President" and then lists the months event. Anyway, this one started with her apologizing for being and month behind and the explanation was this:
As most of you know, I am the volleyball and track coach at my kids' school. Last year I was the assistant coach for both sports. This year I am the head coach of both and also the boys' assistant basketball coach. I've been very busy and just haven't had time to get the newsletter put together.
She is NOT the head coach of anything but track and they have two meets a year. She is NOT any type of coach at all with basketball. One of her big excuses to calling and txting the super so much is it's all about sports because he is also the Athletic Director. She is an asst. coach in v'ball, not head coach.
She denied writing anything like this and I screwed up and told her I would show her a copy of it that I had in a file at work. "You have a file of my e-mails at work?" Uh-oh. So I said that a friend who had been through a D told me to make and keep notes about anything I might find useful later in court. I told her I have the dates and times that she has stayed out, the times she has left the kids with a sitter to go have a few beers, the times she has come home drunk, when I pick the kids up from school and she stays and doesn't come home until late, etc. She was shocked and asked why I would keep things like that. Was I going to try to get custody? I said I was simply protecting myself. She said that she had agreed to 50-50. I said that she agreed to that now, but that could change.
It happened before I new it. Oh, well. She has another thing to think about while she is mulling over our kids getting involved in her lies. I have my back covered. Probably not as much as I should but hopefully enough. She doesn't know what I have or don't have and I told her it may never need to see the light of day, it was her choice.
