I have to say here that what the C said isn't out of line with DBing principals. You have to figure out what WORKS and do more of it!
I was pretty confused when I first started trying to DB. I kept seeing people trying so hard not to pursue and not to initiate R talks. For my situation, some pursuing and lots of R talks were necessary. I felt like needed massive amounts of reassurance, but wasn't getting much. H on the other hand required a lot of reassurance about a lot of things before he felt safe to work towards coming home.
I think different stages of piecing can require different things too. If giving your H lots of reassurance and affection is what seems to be in order and it works--do it!
