I am so nervous. I could use any support right now. Either tonight or tomorrow night I know I need to establish the boundary and force him to decide if he wants her in his life or wants to work on our marriage and family. Fear is paralyzing right now - my heart is racing all day, short of breath. But I know I can't live like this snooping at the phone bill all day long any more. I cannot be this type of person for my daughters to see.

When I tell him this, do I give him a day to think over what he wants or is he supposed to answer immediately and by the time I leave the room I'll know if he is intending to move out or not?

Me 32 H 32
Ds 3.5 and 1.5
M 5 years, T 14 years
EA/Bomb: 7/1/10
PA revealed: 9/14/10
Legally separated: 10/01/10