I'm sure that what your h had with ow was purely an 'in love' feeling something that would not last. Even if he claims friendship...what was h's friendship with you like at the beginning our your r? It is unfair for him to see his r with ow as a real one...because the newness does wear off. As long as you change, to be better for yourself then he'll see it and may want to take part in a m with you again.
Right now it is to your advantage...you know what you want while h is confused.
Yes, my h needs lots of reassurances. I'm finding myself struggling with trust issues while trying to reassure him. It's like how do you reassure when they are not for sure if they are coming back? How can I balance my reassurance level in that kind of atmosphere???? Yikes!
