I admit that I am in a hurry to have this fixed! I just feel like when I'm with h that he doesn't want to be there with me...this because he doesn't say much to me. As was the norm in our r previously, he doesn't talk to me about r nor is he affectionate...he goes for days without seeking me out. And I'm just afraid to initiate those 2 things (r and affection) because he may perceive it as being pushy. I don't want to drive him away.
But you are right I need to slow down, let h do his thing, and rejoice that HE IS GOING TO C!
you are right too in that I need to lead by example, change myself and slow the hell down! H says that he's told me before that things can't change over night. I guess I'm just scared that if I'm not doing SOMETHING that nothing will happen.
