Another long term relationship bombed

[gr8 day 2B alive]

What if she does bring it up. I don't want to get caught off guard. I am not going to suggest yet that we should start working on R. But maybe I would suggest that she went to see IC to sort out her issues by herself. She knows that I've been seeing IC. She even tried to get his name which I did not give up.

YOU are working on the R.

Try telling an alcoholic they have a drinking problem. It won't work. She needs to be the one to recognize she needs help.

You're going to IC, great! She knows that. How do you feel when you get out of a session? Are you portraying a happy confident person? Should could be seeing good things from you going to IC.
You don't have to give het the specific name but tell her it's the ABC group on main st.

I know that's mind reading, but there have been suddle differences in what she says and how she says it. "When are you going to leave?" has been replaced with "What do you want to do?", "I don't love you." has been replaced with "I was able to love you again last time, but you did not recognize that.", "I have not loved you for 10 years." has been replaced with "I gave us a new start 7 years ago and you blew it

She is uncertain with her feelings. These exapmles could easily flip te other way tomorrow. Be careful.

What's best for me is to stay in the house fix things that I planned on fixing this summer and take care of my dog pack.

voila, there's your answer. Let her know how YOU feel and if she asks a question you don't know the answer to or don't want to reply to right, than use the :

I need time to think about that..

I see your point and I'm not sure how I feel about that. Let me get back to you.

You are the one in control of you.
Saying these things in a loving way will show her you care about her feelings and will process the information.