Cat04...I definitely agree with you...I do like to show that there is hope to reconcile even when all "appears" lost...that being said I also don't count those that don't reconcile as failures by any means...while some may not "do the work" they have to live with the decisions they make...those that "do the work" but still for whatever reason don't reconcile will be better prepared to face the rest of their life.
I think anytime there are marriage problems it points to the weaknesses of both parties...and allows the opportunity to grow and learn...or fail...but each spouse has to make a choice and if they choose together that is a good thing...if they choose apart, while it is sad, it is not by anymeans the end...
Success is measured by what is learned...like going to school...hard work + good grades = successful learning... for LBS's hard work + commitment to self-improvement = successful life...
I post because when I was going through this I didn't find a lot of active support and very few successful reconiliations...I just needed to KNOW there was hope...but realized in time that I would be fine no matter what!
