Geez - and I thought our FT was a little inept for suggesting H read books on boundaries and communication when what he really needed was a swift kick to man up!
Let me get this straight.. this is an INDIVIDUAL counsellor? With NO LICENSE to practice marriage therapy in your state? And she's giving him marriage advice?
Hello?
Be careful he doesn't show up on this forum.. it's happened before when People get a hold of MWD's name...
how do you think i found this site? and yes, this same ic told him to pack an escape the abusive wife bag, told him how to break the news to me, etc. the clinic denies that they would give such advice, but the ic did. they claim they advise based on what the client tells them. so if the client says his wife is abusing him and he's afraid for his life, they have to protect him.
so .. apparently i'm an abuser. every person i told that story to, looks at me in awe. they know i'm not like that and i would never hurt a fly. for someone to make such false claims like that against me is .. wrong.
my initial posts were very vague because of this. i've learned to open up not because i think he's not lurking but because i simply don't care anymore.
things i post here, are not things that he could use against me. and if he does read my posts, then good .. at least he will know how i really feel. i never had a chance to vent. and maybe he will see that allen a thinks he needs to grow up. sometimes my posts are directed towards him.
maybe he will realize things when he sees it in words. i do apologize and own up to my part in the breakdown of our marriage. i talk about myself and what my issues are. it has nothing to do with him.
a lot of people with a sociology or basic psych degree will call themselves a MT.
i couldn't i was made to look like an abuser. my own ic knew i was afraid to go home but she didn't tell me to pack a bag. it sends a bad message. you have to be careful giving that kind of instruction to people.
ok. i can't keep whining about that now.
i feel like this was all drama stirred up by h. i'm pretty low key. and i hate drama. but his family thrives on it. everything is drama.
