As long as you come across as the jealous one, the possessive one, the one that wants a committment before she is ready, the one who keeps wanting to talk about the relationship, the one who keeps failing to be the first to tire of the relationship talks, is as long as this will carry on and NOT be in your favor...
You are the female in this relationship as it stands.
The BEST thing for you to do is to AGREE with what SHE says (notice that I say "says" she wants)...
"WAW. I have been doing some thinking and here is what I have decided. I think that you are right. We should just relax and have fun and stop talking about the relationship. Go ahead and date others. I now see what you meant. I want to date others too. If we are meant to be together, then nothing can hold us apart. As far as sleeping with others, I think that is our own personal business. I don't want to know who you are sleeping with or if you are sleeping with other people. I don't care to divulge my personal sleepiing habits to you either. Let's just play it by ear from here on out. You can see anybody you want to see and I will too."
And THEN YOU BE THE ONE TO START DATING OTHER WOMEN...Date up a storm..... I would stop asking your WAW out altogether. Make her ask YOU out. you WANT her to wonder if this dating others idea she ahd BACKFIRED on HER. Did YOU find someone else that YOU like better. She has never had to worry or wonder about that because you are like a love sick puppy to her and she knows she can have you at any time any place.. How sad
This trying to be the stand up guy and show her how great you are is NOT working. It is turning her OFF. She is bored and wants to chase but you won't allow her to How sad that you won't call her bluff on this dating and sleeping around nonsense. This is usually what the female is doing to get the man to committ.You are the female here. UNATTRACTIVE to her. You should be letting her see that she WAS right. This dating others is great for YOU... Life is good.. Women are good... I love my life.. Thanks for the great idea honey... etc. etc. etc...
Your other opiton..
"I have been doing some thinking and I realize that I don't want you to date around and see me too. That isn't what I am lookikng for. I think we should go our separate ways for now."
You have been getting played... One minute she needs time to find out who she is.. The next minute she needs time to find out what makes her happy and now it is something else. You are too easy and that makes it hard for her to be attracted to you. Somone else is going to come along sooner or later if you don't wise up...
You should be showing her how much fun you are having WITHOUT her..You should want her to want to be with you because you are sooooo much fun.. She should be asking you if she can go with YOU to... (fill in the blank of fun things you are doing with other women without her along)...
You just don't get it. Women like men who are fun, men who don't pressure. men who can take or leave them.. men who are going somewhere... They hate BORING men.. What does she have to do to get you to understand that she is bored out of her skull???? You are boring her with this "exclusive, jealous of her ex, this isn't an ultimatium, and who she has on her Facebook talk"... WISE UP.
