i guess i see that when the exposure is to family, friends, co-workers .. if i was having the affair, i would probably see that as vindictive. as the person having the affair, wouldn't dignified be "confronting me" about it in private and not taking it public? because now i can't look at anybody in the face. you ruined me. that was so vindictive of you to do that .. blah blah .. and for that, i will never get back together with you.
you see how it can go that way too?
i didn't do any name calling, fingerpointing, or blaming .. i let my h do all the talking. i just let him rant and let him take the lead. he thought i was going to be vindictive and nasty .. in the end, he did the name calling, fingerpointing, and blaming. and he was vindictive and nasty towards me .. for doing nothing.
i felt i have been more than fair throughout. and i wonder whether he will ever speak to me again. even as friends. does this mean he does not respect me?
