I think the advice the c gave me is not inline with db principles. The c wants me to give my h details when he begins to ask me where I'm going, who I'm with in an effort to break the circular pattern of our conversations. C thinks that if I reassure h that I'm not being unfaithful that the endless questions will stop and hopefully build up my h's low self-esteem. My h has abandonment issues and the c feels that my being vague about my going-ons only serves to reinforce those feelings thus leading to a negative outlook in his view of our r.
I've not had an opportunity to try this since h hasn't asked my whereabouts yet. But will try at the soon availibility since I got to do something different to stop this pattern and reinforce to my h that I do care about what he wants.
