Took our daughters to the first day of school together. I'm pretty calm now, not really expecting anything from my W. Just trying to do my stuff, be supportive of her when she asks for something, being a good dad.
D8 has a parent/teacher meeting tomorrow night. W assumed I wouldn't want to go since "You don't like those types of things." I told her not to mindread or assume, and that I wanted to go, so we'd need to find a babysitter.
Walking back from the school to our car, I opened the car door for her for the first time years. She usually doesn't like the gentlemanly stuff like that, but that's just how I'm going to roll...
Walking back from the school to our car, I opened the car door for her for the first time years. She usually doesn't like the gentlemanly stuff like that, but that's just how I'm going to roll...
Seperated at birth again. I've always been the gentleman like that as well, and my W doesn't really like that either. Specifically, the car door opening. She's always said, "I can open my door myself."
Maybe I should just roll like you regardless
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
She usually doesn't like the gentlemanly stuff like that,
Don't kid yourself, women love that when they are attracted to you. I couldn't even chew my food right when I was the King of DAMdom.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Don't kid yourself, women love that when they are attracted to you.
The KEY is "when they are attracted" to you..
NOT when they say they want out and are not sure what they want...
PH is making another mistake here. This is nothing more than pursuing and trying to earn her love. It isn't done out of strength, but of weakness. Looks like the less she gives the more he loves her and wants her. No wonder she doesn't need to give much. This isn't going to gain him a thing.
Not only that he is doing it even though he says and believes she doesn't like it.... Why would a man do things that he knows his lover or wife doesn't like? Silly.
PH can be polite but not over the top. Women do love chivalry, it shows men care, but Gucci is right... we REALLY love chivalrous behavior when we are INTO you. If a man is going out of his way to open every day, incessant calling, a million invitations out and we're not *that* into him, then we are turned off (mostly).
PH I don't think it was wrong of you to open the door for her but don't bend over backwards to please her if she seemingly has one foot out the door. If she doesn't *like* you to open doors, then don't do it. You would be better off doing something small for her related to something she likes.
That is good you are going to the conference if it's something you normally don't do. A 180. Be cool and calm when you go.
I have also had a backfire, W told me the other night when I bought her a gift card that it was "insulting" she felt like I was just trying to butter her up to make her want to stay. I think Pin and I are dealing with the same type "of woman" my W wants to prove she can do it on her own. That is why i posted this statement. The difference is that Pin's W still has one foot in the door and my W has both feet running down the street!!!!
Don't kid yourself, women love that when they are attracted to you.
The KEY is "when they are attracted" to you..
NOT when they say they want out and are not sure what they want...
PH is making another mistake here. This is nothing more than pursuing and trying to earn her love. It isn't done out of strength, but of weakness. Looks like the less she gives the more he loves her and wants her. No wonder she doesn't need to give much. This isn't going to gain him a thing.
Not only that he is doing it even though he says and believes she doesn't like it.... Why would a man do things that he knows his lover or wife doesn't like? Silly.
I didn't do it to impress her, or to make her fall for me. I just think it's good manners, gentlemanly, and that's how I'm behaving for ME. She didn't seem offended at all, said thanks.
There's a fine line between DBing, and being indifferent to how YOU want to be in life. I'm not doing this to "gain" anything, anymore than any of the other 180s I've done recently.
