The respect isn't coming from exposure... THe respect comes from protecting the marriage, the family, children, and fighting FOR your spouse rather than tossing them to the wolves like most spouses would have...
HOW that's done generates a lot of anger, but the RESULTS I think is more what gets the respect, and the WAY its handled...
You can handle exposure in a dignified way or in a vendictive nasty way that won't get you any help at all...
You get respect when yo speak up for your marriage, you get disgust when you name call, fingerpoint, and BLAME
You can expose by being dignified or nasty, you only get respect by using the former
