i don't want to hijack a thread .. nor do i want to start a new thread. but i have a question that have been trying to figure out about some of the advice here.
this is really for puppy or allen .. someone who's been through it and live to tell the story.
in one of the threads on the newcomers forum, puppy talked about his past. and in the end, he said that his wife was livid because he exposed the affair, but she understood why he did it and respected him for it and thanked him for fighting for the marriage.
i don't think i understand the human behaviour behind it. i'm trying to put myself in her shoes and if you exposed my affair and embarrassed me in front of my co-workers, friends, and family .. i would be livid for a very long time. and wouldn't the anger cloud any kind of respect? when does the respect part come in? i'd be so angry for being embarrassed in public that i would not even think of respecting my spouse.
can you explain the respect part a bit more? how did you earn her respect by calling her out so publicly like that?
