Wife filed for divorce...Is there still hope?

[LSG]

DanF,

I think I will have to have that done to my W. She says since it is not in writing she will not pay. She told my attorney she would by it by check, but I don't think that is going to happen anytime soon.

I will can the attorney tomorrow. She is not leaving anything for the kids to speak of for food either. I need to do something about that too.

The is crazy. She wants me to pay half the rent and insurance too which will leave me with nothing to eat or anything. It is just too much. I need a job so bad.

Well, I am okay, and I will stay that way forever.

Thanks for keeping ground and in control of me.

[LSG]

IDU,

I understand. No worries!

I just appreciate the continued support from you.

Take it easy and everything will be okay somehow for you.

[LSG]

Chuck66,

I have the court order, but W says it is not in writing, so she is not going to pay. Also she says she does not have the money to pay it. I guess that is her problem, but I am sure she can afford it. She is just p!ssed that she has to pay.

Not my problem. I did not start this. She did!

What you are stating should be the same for everyone.

Thanks for being here.

Take care!

[LSG]

Son's birthday was today, and W bought him something, and I gave him my tackle box. He seemed to like both very much. D gave him a backpack he likes of hers. It was a nice morning.

W has not been wearing her wedding ring since the hearing, but I guess I expected it to come off sooner or later.

Laundry is still piling up, and S is running out of clothes.

I have to call attorney today about the support, and see what options I have. I guess there is welfare or public assistance. I don't know. I know I need a job, and I have been asking everyone for help in my job search. I am eating a little, but I noticed not only has my stomach shrunk, but the rest of me is really thin. I just need to discuss this because my family and friends do not know. I just had to get it off my mind here. I have to keep doing what I am doing to make it.

There is not really any food here for kids for lunch, and I have to figure it out everyday. They are tired of rice and the same old same old.

I am just expressing my thoughts here to keep me okay.

[DanF]

Hang tough LSG. Let us know what your attorney says.

Can you go to a food pantry and get some food for you and the kids? Or maybe a soup kitchen for yourself? I have no experience with either and I know both of those options would be very difficult, but you have to eat something.

Is there a local church where you could go for help?

Good luck.

[pinhead]

LSG,

You have to be healthy to take care of your kids. And your kids need more than just rice and whatever you have. Look into whatever community resources you have available. Don't wait for your wife to provide for your kids. Lead your family. Lead yourself.

[dsh4320]

LSG,

I posted on my thread that I have a lot of contacts in Los Angeles, what type of work are you in? If I can help lead you to some people in your job field let me know. my email is [e-mail]

[CityGirl]

Have you considered going to a temp agency? At this point you need to take ANYTHING be it manual labor or admin work.

When it reaches a point of your children not having proper nutrition something has to change.

If your W is not paying court ordered support (check when her first payment is due) then escalate the problem to somebody who will be sure she does. It doesn't sound as if the support is meant to cover more than day to day expenses and she must maintain the home (?).

If she is unwilling to play by the court ordered rules in the home then your attny should be working on the next step to get her OUT of the home. Withholding funds though so her children are regulated to rice is a very serious issue.

[LSG]

Hi DanF,

At this point, I am not sure my options, but I hope to find them out tomorrow when my attorney and me discuss the outcome of the hearing tomorrow.

Any option is difficult, but I will do whatever is necessary for me and the kids.

I do know that I will find a solution to my situation soon.

I will not let the kids down. I just cannot do that.

Thanks for the ideas, and I will be looking into them with the other suggestion I have been given here and from family and friends.

Thank you so much!

[LSG]

PH,

You are so right that I have to be healthy for my kids, and I have to consider that more everyday. The kids do need more than they have right now. I just can't believe what my W is doing. I never had any problems when I was managing the finances. I always planned ahead weeks to months in advance. I knew everything that needed to be done. Now I will have to do whatever is needed for them.

Thanks for being here for me.