Well I took the advise of several posts and started a 6 session MC with divorce busters. We are still using the old MC because it is covered by insurance. I have to say that I got some good insight into our marraige from the DB. I haven't approached the W about the DB counseling session yet. I think I will at some point. But she started her own counseling session to get things worked out in her own mind. She lost her mom, got a new job (left the old one after 15 years)--both in June and just turned 42 in August. This caused her to look at her life and realize that it was not what she wanted. So she decided to end it with me because she knew me and that I couldn't change and be happy.
I have realized that she really doesn't know me that well.
I have made and will continue to make changes to my life because I don't like what I had become. I had neglected friends, familyk, and buried my self in work and home projects. I didn't realize that I was hurting these area until she told (probably too late now) but I am not going to give up.
We did have a talk about the OM and it sounds like it is only an EA and he is not interested in her at this point. That doesn't change anything because she still wants to seperate. She made an appointment to look at a condo near by our house. She siad that I could keep the house and we would split the kids between us. The only problem is that I don't want to be house poor. So at this point, I told her that I understand her feelings and if she wants to move out then I would support her (emotionally). However, I am thinking about filing for a D because that way there is a time limit to this (6 months) for her to figure things out and allow me to move on if we don't reconcile. I could also have the option to sell the house if I needed to.
