Yep-I got a real fear of detaching from him and him going to the OW. It's just in the past I've almost always had to be the one to initiate contact. He'd go forever without calling me unless it had something to do with our kids. I'v learned from past experience that maintaining contact works-I just need to control how I act around him. What brings him closer to me is me acting confident, happy, with NO R talks or questions about the OW. I'm at ground zero here. I have already changed my actions, but it's only been a few days-not enough time for him to even notice much. I hope he still has an open mind and hasn't closed it off where we are concerned. Rachael
