I am just tired of going after someone who is clearly in love with me, but doesn't want to work on the M. I'm just beaten and tired of feeling like I have to do all the work for the both of us, so I'm inclined not to do it anymore - but the character of who I am and the man I want to be will not allow me just to quit on our M. I'm afraid that I'm going to have to start preparing to distance myself from W emotionally (drop the rope) so I can preserve my own self. I love her, and I want to be in a M with her, but I'm starting to get a concussion from continually banging my head up against the wall when she says she loves me, kisses me, flirts with me, and stays with me. I love my W and our family, but I will not continue an emotional life like this without a committment from both of us.
I get that you are frustrated and confused. Go back and read that comment out loud to yourself. Detach and comment on it like someone else wrote it. I only "got it" when I could "coach" myself on what to do. Check your emotions at the door and think thru it. Is what you are doing working? Your wife is showing very good signals to you, learn to be a cat whipserer. Men are dogs stop thinking about what a dog would do.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
