This is the second time for me through this, so not sure the value of my advice, but the one guiding principle I stuck by last time was to do only actions that I would be proud of. When I looked back in 6 months time, would I feel good about my actions? I'm trying to hold onto that again this time, told my H that and just pissed him off -- he said I was more honorable than him!
I haven't read DR in awhile so I've been cruising the info threads and two things that stuck out at me are the need to have patience, which is so hard to do right now, and the positive effects of just being their friend. Read the books as soon as you can, they have great advice in them!
Me 48, H49, M24, S14, S11 DB #1 4/2002-8/2003 Bomb #2 August 2010 & he moved out Living with OW