Not sure where to start, or end. WAW?

[john28]

I turned to her and said, "Nothing is wrong, see?"

She sees right thru that. You see right thru that. We all see right thru that. It's not honest and is detrimental to a relationship.

Something is wrong. She wants you to be honest with her and tell her what it is. It's not pursuing to bring up behavior that is a problem for you. So what is wrong, why were you so passive-agressive last night?

Agreed, that not being honest is detrimental to the R. It's not being transparent.

In all honesty, I didn't feel passive agressive at all last night, even though my words dictate that. I was very nice, all smiles, pleasant, listened to her and let her engage me - but I tried to just stop pursuing (not 100% successfully) when I was around her.

What was wrong last night? Nothing really. If I would have been forced to explain it to her, I might have said:

I am just tired of going after someone who is clearly in love with me, but doesn't want to work on the M. I'm just beaten and tired of feeling like I have to do all the work for the both of us, so I'm inclined not to do it anymore - but the character of who I am and the man I want to be will not allow me just to quit on our M. I'm afraid that I'm going to have to start preparing to distance myself from W emotionally (drop the rope) so I can preserve my own self. I love her, and I want to be in a M with her, but I'm starting to get a concussion from continually banging my head up against the wall when she says she loves me, kisses me, flirts with me, and stays with me. I love my W and our family, but I will not continue an emotional life like this without a committment from both of us.