"acting" was her wording but I guess I have been "acting as if". I have been in a good mood and am certainly closer to letting go in that I have a plan and am moving forward with the D, but her recent actions have me questioning if there is more hope than I thought (that last bit of detaching is not moving much right now)
Point taken, thanks for putting it in a context I can grasp.
My 180 is to take care of the house like I don't need her and that everything will be fine in my life.
That's basically how I've been approaching it, doing the things I will need to do after we split. That is what she pointed to when she said I was acting like nothing was wrong. I guess I was focused on her changes and it brought back that hope and I forgot about me.
Friday is her birthday but the kids want to celebrate it tonight. I have taken D8 shopping and will take S16 today as well as picking up the cake for them. The cake has "mommy" on it not her name so that she knows it is from the kids. I plan on a simple "friend" type birthday card from me and that's it. In fact I was planning on going somewhere tonight when she gets home so they can have their party.
