INTERESTED IN MLC FOR LBS

[Albuquerque]

Hi Bobby O

Sorry you have to join us here. I'm relatively new here myself, but it is great to have this forum to talk with other people, going through similar situations.
As I said, I'm still relatively new and still learning the ropes myself. But what stands out to me with your post, is that you still spent the entire paragraph discussing what your wife wants and explaining how you have have changed/will change because that is what your wife wanted.

The unfortunate fact about MLC is at this moment, your wife doesn't care Jack **it about what you do. It's about her. The recommendations that people on this board have made are accurate. If you make changes, they need to be because it's what YOU want, not because it's what you think it will help get your wife back.

You are staying at home more. Is that something you've wanted all along? What are YOU doing to get a life (GAL) and move on. This is a long road. She will be off doing her own thing for a while. You need to detach (hard but necessary) and go on as if she's not coming back. She has to go through this alone. In a way, you already know this. You spend a lot of your post listing all the things you've "done" that prove in your mind why you were a great husband (and I'm not disputing any of them). However, then you state (CORRECTLY),

my wife blames me for her unhappiness and I have told her that only she can make herself happy.

That is the key to all of this. She must go through this on her own. There is nothing we LBS can do other than stand for our marriage (if we choose to do so) and GAL. Make changes within you that YOU feel need to be addressed, but do them for YOU.