Having a party this friday night at Fast Eddies in Round Rock, just south of 1325/SH 45, starting about 5:30pm. Come on up if you can! We'll be at the city tables.
My c told me yesterday that I'm feeding my h's insecurities by being vague about my whereabouts. MC said I need to see h as fearful of rejection and that he really wants me back home. I need to stop assuming and treat h like a person with feelings that are not being met. He said if I would go into situations with my h seeing him as fearful of rejection, in need of love and compassion, that both of our assumptions would go out the window! MC said h right now is very shut down because his feelings are not being validated. MC said that it would help my situation immensely if I would not just listen but see what h is really trying to say (need to read his body language because sometimes sarcastic remarks are really an indication that he's insecure/feels threatened). So I've been charged to do that.
This will be so hard to do because I feel as though to see my h as someone that is hurting, that needs me requires a degree of vulnerability that I've yet to ever show h. I mean I will really need to trust that h is indicating to me by his actions that he wants our m. MC though feels pretty confident that if I start to assume my h is just really lost, in need of love, feels rejected and is fearful that it will diffuse our heated interactions and keep us from going in circles with he said, she said crap. Well, I guess now that I read that it's basically turning all my negative thinking about the r into a positive thought process. Boy, will that really challenge my assumptions !
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