I have done the mirror work for a long time. The biggest problem for me was being a physician and dividing myself between my family and patient care. I have changed my job and moved to different states in order to meet her more time at home requests.I consider myself a very giving person and have always tried to put her and the family first. She accused me of an affair years ago that NEVER happened. I even offered to take a polygraph that she cancelled the day before. I more recently changed my job again so that I work one week and am off the other week. I wanted to travel with her and plan retirement. She however is not happy with where she is and is blaming me for all of her unhappiness. My wife at times has a lot of insecurities and sometimes feels people judge her in a negative light. She has always been like that. She is a RN and I put her through school. She has always been an overachiever. The biggest problem I think is that my wife had been unhappy for a long time. She failed to make that point to me. I thought things were fine. I would move a mountain for her if I could and she knows it. I have gone into individual counceling and saw a Psychiatrist who was the one who told me the problem was this midlife crisis syndrome. I had no idea it could do this to women. The Psychiatrist had told me that my son coming home from the war in Iraq and her going to school would improve her self esteem and she might eventually come around. I think he is right in what he said. At present she is not happy with me. She says we have different interests etc. I have always put her first and have done things together with her rather than go off with individual friends. My wife does not let a lot of people close to her. In my opinion, her best friend is the sister who has metastatic cancer. I paid for her sisters mortgage etc. when she could not work. I volunteered hundreds of hours to paint and lay wood floors down at the ballet studio my daughter dances at. This was at my wifes request and I did it gladly. In short my wife blames me for her unhappiness and I have told her that only she can make herself happy. Believe me when I say that his woman is my best friend, my soulmate and the love of my life. I hope this helps describe me a little more. I do appreciate this help I am getting with this difficult struggle in my life. Bobby O