Small update. Felt better the longer the day went. Finished packing her clothes/toiletries into the garage. Also put all the pictures I won't want there, too. (wedding, vacations, 'couple pics', etc) Organized my closet.
then I decided to check if the 200 bucks she paid a personal CC was back in the account. She said she would do it. I texted "the 200 you said yesterday was an accident is not back in there. We are now over drawn"
She sends (verbatim) "I'm trying. Called them to reverse it and they are emailing me a PIN. I'm SORRY!"
M: I preumed you would just take 200 from the 460 you withdrew and get the CC money later. I didn't realize the 460 was already gone.
So, things are pretty tight. The affair is under some financial pressure. I know OM is going to school in a week for the next 16. Only gets Gov't training not his work income. he also has a bout 20K debt from his recent separation. We know W is strugling and I'm sure OM's Bro and SIL and getting tired of footing the bill and doubling occupancy in their tiny place.
I hear cracking. And I also see an apology in the text. I'm feeling some respect in my direction.
Not cocky. Just saying.
Tomorrow is calling bank and mediator. Get some stuff arranged. Meeting a friend from my car sales days to get some options for W regarding downgrading her vehicle to save her some dough (me, too as I'll not have 1/2 her pymnt anymore) Win win! Shampoo the carpet in the evening. Place will gleam.
Should be able to sleep better tonight.
Feels good having some direction and being active.
I'm trying to be less terse in my texts but not soft. Civil is a word Coach likes to use.
interesting thought. regardless of whether she comes back and/or I take her back, both her truck and this house need to go.
When she said that the marriage started to go downhill in Aug/September 07 (mid-pregnancy in her mind) I realized that also coincided with the finacial pressure of this house. And it hasn't let up since given the economy; her mat leave income; and her spending habits.
