Had a second good evening with W. She made no attempt to provoke me and was very pleasant.
We had some quick discussions about some of the logistics on separating and she was having difficulty with something and I offered to help her out. She accepted my help.
i think she is a bit confused with my attitude and doesn't really know where to take it. She is joking around and smiling and the atmosphere in the house is way better than it has been in months.
Before she went to bed tonite she just stood beside me for a minute before saying goodnight and heading up as if she was going to say something but didn't.
When she is like this it is also much easier for me to smile and look cheerful because I am more content.
It will still be very difficult on separation day and probably more so if we are actually getting along but i am resigned to the fact that she was leaving anyway.
At least this way her last memories of our household are going to be calm and helping each other and not in conflict.
I can now even disagree with her and hold my ground and she doesn't get as upset and listens to my point of view as i do hers. Amazing
Setting them free takes away their reason to fight you. Maybe she will come back , maybe not. At least its her decision to live with and not me driving her out.
Its an interesting turn of events and I wish I started this earlier. I am sure all the fighting and arguing before they feel released just vindicates their decision to leave anyway.
