I didn't look at him because I wanted him to see I had a happy life without him, being totally unaware he was in the room. Like it was a coincidence we happened to be in the same restaurant and I looked damned good. I didn't want to slap him, actually, had no difficulty not looking his way. Had a fun time with the girls I was with for lunch.
First off.....WHACK, WHAM, BAM, BOOM, POP, do ya get it? I think you do.
I am sorry that your H is pressuring you. I really am. So what is done is done. Please honey, stop responding to him. Please. Stop putting things on paper. Stop agreeing to anything.
Now do me a favor and remove all email access from yourself.
Seriously, Pun...he is fuc*ing with you. He is trying to get you riled up. It helps with his own justification.
Contact your L and share the email with him. Explain to your L what has been going on. Find out if this email legally binds you.
Finally, crack a beer, smoke a fatty do what you need to do to calm down. Your better than this. I can see it your post and you know it. So pick yourself up, dust yourself off and next time he call don't pick up the fu*king phone.
((((Hugs))))
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Okay, I get it, but . . . . . It did feel good to tell him what I thought for once. He has already responded No, he'd wait for court, and then again could we talk on the phone. I responded that I didn't want to hear his voice anymore than he wanted to look me in the eye. It was better if we had no contact at all. Agree to Disagree.
Come one, admit it. That was a pretty good smack I gave him, wasn't it. Just one tiny, itty, bitty, you go girl?
By the way, I'd be happy if that was legally binding. It's what I really want in the first place.
I hope that your office manager will be alright. That is scary stuff.
Your H is being relentless with this. Cut him off and don't let him keep pressuring you.
Send him one last email informing him that further contact with you will have to be through the lawyer. Then change your email addy, and don't answer his calls or texts.
That's what I did, although I didn't change my email address. He emailed a third time telling me he'd agree to some of my terms, yada yada. I returned it to him - unanswered. He'll eventually catch on. Or, I can block him from my email. I looked that up last night on how to do, but somehow, I don't know, it seems wrong. The emails I do copy and take to my lawyer. They show how deranged he is. One email had in it today "....I also heard Arkansas is a state you can appeal a divorce...." WTH does that mean???
ummm ... the but means you don't, or at least don't want to.
Originally Posted By: punkin
Come one, admit it. That was a pretty good smack I gave him, wasn't it. Just one tiny, itty, bitty, you go girl?
P, I save my "atta girls" for moments where folks are growing, learning and reaching beyond themselves to find better ... hon, that was just you wanting to be right, wanting to have YOUR say, to get it off your chest. Do you think that most of us don't WANT to say all kinds of things at any given time? Seriously... who controls your actions? You or H? Sorry to say it.
You are capable of more. You are letting him push your buttons and only YOU can stop it. Only YOU can find peace for yourself. STOP engaging. STFU. Do not reply to ANYTHING. PERIOD. Spunk is good, you've got it in spades and we all enjoy your attitude as you know ... but anger won't help you. It's normal, a part of the process, but you need to see that anger and resentment won't help you along your journey ...
Keep digging .... keep going ....
Oh, and good work at the restaurant btw
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
Sorry about your day. And the actions of your H. What would happen if you do just go dark for awhile? I know he is pushing you and rushing you - but what's the rush on your side? I say this, all the while knowing, I have D papers coming any day. Pushing it to the L puts it on the L's time.
I agree with Eric - take a step back and take care of yourself.
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time
That's what I dig about you. You call it the way it is. Okay...here goes...."You go girl - you finally showed his as* and finally got some shiznit off your chest". Okay I said it..
TO all newbies....please do not follow P's approach, that is unless your P.
Smile Punkin...smile...honey.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
One question....Are you sure your not Puerto Rican..Just wondering...
Hey PEI
Quote:
Do you think that most of us don't WANT to say all kinds of things at any given time?
Yes you are right BUT (okay I know it is an excuse)....Damn I kind of want to cheer her one.
Seriously, Pun - try and keep your cool (I'm still smiling and still want to say...you go girl)... try and keep your cool.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Nope, not Puerto Rican or from New York. Just Irish/Cherokee/English Mountain Girl from Arkansas. Thanks for the attaboy Eric. And Pei, I know you are right. It goes against everything we are told to do. It was childish, selfish, hostile and DAMN IT FELT GOOD!.
I pretty much agree with what is taught on this website, but everynow and then you just want to beat the sh@t outta them. For the moment, it shut him the hell up, as well. My quiet attitude has lead him to the belief that he can bully me into things. Time to remind him that he cannot.
As I said, tomorrow I may regret my words of anger, BUT I DOUBT IT.
