As long as you let him do whatever it is that he want's to do. You may think you are getting along fine but someone in a crisis really can be up one min and down the next. All of it of course your fault, which I hope you know is not the case.
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but it's as if he doesn't trust his inner rage
Anger...yeah the best friend of an MLCer...the anger as you know is in him. It is his inability to look at HIS own issues. This thought is not your problem...you my dear should be looking at your issues and focusing on where you went wrong in the M and making the necessary changes so that YOU can be the person that YOU want to be.
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he'll do/say something to get me angry to "prove" he's been right all along.
Needs it for his justification. This will go on for a while. It is why you do not defend yourself. His perception is HIS reality and nothing you do can change that.
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simply saying I want nothing to do with you.
He will continue to spew hoping that YOU will pull the plug. It makes it easier for him. I initially told my W that I was going to file only to change gears. It was something that I did not want. When I told her I was filing she was soooo happy...next day I came home and said NO i was not filing since it was not what I wanted....boy did her mood change...she was pissed....wanna know why? cause NOW she had to make the move. Now she owned the decision to terminate the M. Now she would need to look at our children and explain it. Don't let him push YOU to do something that YOU do not want to do. Having said this, if your done, then F file. If you truly are not, then don't.
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I'm still going to do IC
Good
2 - keep as calm as you can. Try the stay the hell away from your H. You need to be emotionally sound for your baby.
Finally, you sound a lot better. Keep moving ....keep pressing...
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
