This is my first step in establishing boundaries--not taking her opinions and making them my own without testing to see if they are true. My pattern has been to take it as true, feel like a failure, and try harder at doing the same things.
Hi CL, just thought I'd stop in and lend my support. How are you doing with this first step; at breaking your old pattern? Any opportunities to practice setting your boundaries?
Originally Posted By: Concerned_Listener
She has frequently in the past asked me to take the lead in situations. Her mind is always going, and she naturally wants to take control of things.
Is she quite a worrier, CL? Just wondering because of some of your references to her desire to control, plus her venting and intense emotions.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
