You can petition him for legal fees and I certainly would not be retaining a gentle attny.
I know you don't want to do it but filing is the best move you can make right now for you. Your H can't even be reasonable about the money he owes you for childcare for his SON. Instead of being, you know, a man he redirects it all on you and the divorce.
Retain counsel, file and let him find out when the process server is at his door.
