Don't worry i have a message into to him to check for a SBT in SA. I'll let you know asap!
My h has been unfaithful...but the infidelity is not one of my deal-breakers...I've forgiven h. I did mention the condoms in my h's gym bag that was the catalyist for my filing for d and the c said that our problems are not irrepariable. The mercy God showed to me I wholeheartedly believe is what I need to extend to my unbelieving spouse. The word does say that to God all sin is the same...lying and adultery carry the same weight with God and would be punishable by death expect that Jesus took the punishment. I can forgive my h his infidelity since God has forgiven me so much, in other words. (And it ain't easy to do...sometimes we have to pray EVERY DAY to have a forgiving heart...with my h that is an every day thang!!!)
Don't worry I'll let you know tomorrow what c says about SA.
The counselor told me that he totally sees what I'm talking about in my h. From the questions he asked h, it was apparent he has no idea how to love someone. My h even said that when he asked me to marry him the kids were not a factor in his decision...only that HE was ready, it was what HE wanted to do....no mention of love. The c said that my h needs several weeks of individual counseling....because he just does not see how his dealings with the past have led him to shut down...so much so that he can't be loving to his wife or kids.
I made my own individual appointment and now must call h to give him the c's phone # to set up his own appt. now that is scary...will h call and go ALONE? He may bolt!!!! I told the c but he assured me that from the first appt he determined what NOT to say so that h would not shut down. C learned how to deal with Jeff now will adjust c accordingly. Wow, lots was accomplished yesterday!
I'm still amazed at God's handiwork! The pastor was right that God who never sleeps can change a situation literally over night! So don't loose faith...as you slumber God works! Pray about it!
Quote: I'm still amazed at God's handiwork! The pastor was right that God who never sleeps can change a situation literally over night! So don't loose faith...as you slumber God works! Pray about it!
Wow!
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
I must admit, this supports my theory of marriage - there are 3 parts to every marriage, but only one bad part can bring it down. Those 3 parts? The 2 individuals, and the 1 couple.
Anyways, I wish the best of luck to your H. It ain't easy to hear people tell you things are your fault. Sounds like your C knows his stuff - 1 appointment and he knows how to deal with your H? Wow.
And of course, I wish the best of luck to you also.
Quote: It ain't easy to hear people tell you things are your fault.
Yes, the c commended my h for being there. Said that c was usually the last place a man would want to be to TALK!
Quote: 1 appointment and he knows how to deal with your H?
The c just realized that he can't preach a lot of biblical stuff to my h. H started to get restless when c began to read some scripture.
I had to leave a voicemail for h today asking him to call the c to make his own individual counseling appt. I'm scared he may not want to go by himself. I guess he can call me tonight and let me know how he feels about seeing the c by himself.
I'm in such a pissed off mood today! I called my h last night asking about our plans for Sunday and if he could call me and let me know when/where to meet him. He's yet to call me!
Well why hasn't he called!? I'm feeling really unloved today! I must be PMSing.
The h and I are going to be partying downtown Sunday night and getting a room so that we can hit the rest of clubs after his company Christmass party.
But now that he's not calling me to give me the info...maybe he's changed his mind and doesn't want me to go?
Someone kick me cause I'm totally ASSuming!!!? In a horrible mood today. I may skip work and get me a margarita! RIGHT NOW!
Cindy, bend over cause here comes a good hard kick. Your assuming. Maybe he is busy right now, is he at work, are you? Could be any number of things. Let it go for rite now.
I know Cindy, I know, too many times in the past I assumed the worst, most times it turned out to be nothing. All it ended up doing was causing damage in our R. remember believe half of what you see and none of what your hear.
