Back and a bit worse off

[ericmsant2]

Still,

As always I have been where you are.

I want to think about a few things before I dissect your posts….

Does Still want to leave with his head held high?

Does Still want to truly be a man of character and integrity?

Does Still understand that his W is off her f*cking rocker and nothing that HE does albeit intentionally or otherwise will get her to see the light?

Does Still realize that Still controls Still and Still’s future?

Does Still want to get to a place of forgiveness and true acceptance?

Does Still want to do right by his kids even if it hurts Still?

Does Still know where he F*cked up in the M?


Think about the above for a while.

W wants me to call mortgage company to help get payment lowered.

Okay…what would you do if you and your W were still planning on being together? If I recall you are in a fair amount of debt. Doe refi’ing the house help with YOUR debt situation? Are you planning on keeping the house? Do you want her to keep the house? Do you want your D to remain in the house? Look man, whatever you decide to do, do it because it is really the right thing to do. Don’t do or not do something to position yourself legally, to cause her pain, to force her hand, to make her see that she can’t do it. Just do what is right. Right for Still and Still’s children. As hard as it is right now, you need to think about YOU and your kids. As for your W….let her go. I am not saying be an ass…I am saying let her go. Let me give you an example:

In my sitch, my W originally wanted the house. I relented…thought I wanted it…thought by refusing to leave it I would “make her” see the light, “make her” see that I have changed. I was wrong. I now have decided to allow her and the children to remain in the house. Will she? Who the F knows, what I do know is this…the minute I decided to do what I knew was the right…is when I began to feel better. Character and honor my friend can never be taken away from you. Not even from a wacked out MLCer.

Wants to split kids on taxes when everything I read says I should claim them

Your L will advice you on this. Your L may want to show your wife that by you claiming the kids SHE will get more money…Oh…I meant the “kids” will get more money.. FTR….I say this very sarcastically.

Why do I get the feeling I am the conductor on the train heading towards my own demise?

You will only be the conductor if you allow yourself to be. You will only be the conductor if you still think and act as if you can talk some sense into her. The old saying these neck of the woods…STFU!

Supposed to have a sit down with the W this evening to go over money matters and some other items.

Still STFU…..STFU….No…no…no….Do not agree to anything. Dude, please do not come back here and post that “she said this or she said that”… I hope you did not agree to anything. I hope you did not bend over backwards thinking that she will see some change in you.

Still…please repeat after me….

I cannot control this….

I cannot talk my way out of this….

Actions speak louder than words….

Actions over a PERIOD of time…..

She know what buttons to push….

She know how to get me to my knees….

I am responsible for ME