I have been living in limbo with WAW for about 4 months. During that time i have been trying to LRT , slipping up sometimes, trying to figure out what would possess her to give up our good life.
No EA or PA as far as I could tell after much investigation, no real explanations ( real to me anyway ) etc. She was angry, silent and just really unpleasant to be around.
yesterday she did something that really annoyed and frustrated me and I decided i had had enough and just gave her the speech.
"If you dont want to be with me then leave, I will do everything I can within reason to facilitate that. It doesn't work for me me to be with someone who does not want to be here"
I then sat down and worked out the finances, decided on division of property, figured out how and when we will put the house up for sale.
I discussed all this calmly and quietly and without too much emotion except she teared up at one stage.
Funny thing happened after that. Her anger seemed to evaporate and we started talking pleasantly and the complete dynamic of our relationship changed. The "I want out of here NOW" attitude changed.
She will still leave and i will encourage her to do so. We needed something to shake things up and this I feel is it. If at some time she WANTS to come back then i will figure out what works for me.
After it was all over I had my first solid nights sleep in 4 months and felt like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulder.
As a previous poster said. Whats the worst thing that can happen THEY WILL LEAVE well THEY WERE LEAVING ANYWAY
