We had communication issues as well. Talking and listening were both "defective"
Yah, that's a tough place to be. I feel for you. I used to think it was one of those things that is 'there' or isn't; like the ability to communicate well (or poorly) was a permanent, unchangeable part of one's personality. I figured asking him to communicate with me more, and in different ways, was asking him to 'be' someone he wasn't. So I had a lot of guilt over my unhappiness with it for many years. I had no clue it was simply a behavioral skill that can be learned, until I got into IC.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
