i love this thread. although coach keeps posting things about what makes a great man. not enough info on what makes a great woman. i understand that guys are very visual but that's so subjective. What one guy thinks is attractive may not be attractive for someone else. and what about substance, intelligence, ..
Well, though we are visual, the subjective value of the "substance" does affect our 'vision'. Intelligence, character, sense of humor, confidence (same chracteristics women look for) are a form of "beer goggles". And, when the substance values fade or fail, the goggles fail as well.
I really don't think we're THAT different. I think that we just prioritize based on evolution. Women tend to "feel" more so they look for the confidence that makes them "feel" safe and secure. Men tend to "see" more so we notice that first. But having our initial attention is pretty fleeting without the substance. IMO. Or my case, anyway.
Originally Posted By: DfM
i think you attract what you are. if you set the bar low for yourself, you will get exactly that. in other words, dress like a slob, have no manners and no goals, don't like to lead, and have no self-confidence? well .. that's what you'll attract.
I also think there is something to be said for "where" you are as well. A point in life; a certain requirement based on your position in life and/or priorities. these things shift a little and when two peoples "timelines" line up, we are susceptible to be attracted to that, as well.
