Exposed finally,,limbo land

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I guess at this point I’m just journaling, or at least it feels like it.

So this weekend was nasty. She took my D8 out on a boat with friends of ours from our town, and took OM and his son also! We had an agreement that she was not to let OM around kids until 6 months after D is final or I would get full custody. But, I fear that it is unenforceable at this point, if ever. It has truly traumatized D8. D8 says while bawling, that she doesn’t think we will ever be a family again because W and OM call each other ‘honey’ in front of her. W asked her to keep it a secret, also so very unhealthy for D8.

Our unofficial parenting plan has DDs with me three nights, before during and after my two days off, and D14 is fighting it. She always wants to be at her mom’s, and says it’s because of our dogs, their general odor(standard indoor dog stuff) and the dust bunnies from their shedding. The house is being kept cleaner now than before separation, so it seems like an excuse. I don’t want to get rid of the dogs, because it’s probably not the real reason, and she will just make up another excuse, but I do want her comfortable. W and I are going to have talk tonight, so she hopefully won’t cave (like normal) when D14 asks to stay at her place on my days/nights.

W says she feels like bad guy telling D14 to go to my place, yet told her that it was OK to stay at her place on one of my nights that W wasn’t going to be with OM. I feel like the bad guy saying,” You have to stay at my house tonight.”