I agree with DanF. Stay the course. Marathon not a sprint. Set the small goals like the book said to do and keep checking back here. Start journaling on here so you can get the feedback and positive reinforcement/validation that what you are doing is working. You aren't going to get it from her right now.
Know why my H said he wants to be in the marriage? Because he actually went to see the OW this weekend and I did not call or text at all. I left him alone and went to visit a friend I hadn't seen in 10 years. I came home and packed a bag for him ready to kick him out and on his way home he said he wants this to work. I'm not at peace yet because he and OW are still texting....but that is my own story. Point is that I have been backing off and not pursuing, not returning texts, being emotionally focused on only my kids for a few weeks now.
Me 32 H 32 Ds 3.5 and 1.5 M 5 years, T 14 years EA/Bomb: 7/1/10 PA revealed: 9/14/10 Legally separated: 10/01/10
