i have to give her credit for not telling me that my marriage was over.
she did not say that it was over. but she told me that it appeared that he was taking care of himself first so i had to take care of myself as well.
she also said thought it was odd that his counsellor advised him to leave a packed bag in the car. you advise people to do that when there is a serious threat. in our case, there is no history of violence or threats that it didn't warrant such advice.
and btw, i checked that bag for anything unusual. didn't find anything odd. yes, i was smart enough to check everything.
my counsellor didn't say my m was over but she told me that if we do get back together, my h will need a lot of work because of his attachment to his parents. it's not healthy for him.
the counsellor was realistic in that sense. but i didn't like her answer as to why the breakup wasn't my fault. i do believe it takes two to damage the relationship.
