"Wife, I won't share you with another man. If you don't stop immediate contact then I will pack your belongings and help you move out and initiate a D."
be very clear about what is non-negotiable to you.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.